Questions people often ask.

A resentment is an old hurt that was never properly fixed — a moment when your feelings got hurt or a need went unmet, and nothing was done about it. It doesn't have to be something big. Common areas include communication, emotional closeness, trust, how you handle conflict, feeling unheard, and unmet expectations. Most couples carry several resentments — often without fully realising it.

When resentment piles up, love doesn't disappear — it gets buried. Communication gets harder because every conversation carries old unresolved weight. Closeness erodes. The same arguments keep coming back because the real problem was never fixed.

This is why communication tips rarely work on their own. Clearing resentment first is what allows everything else to change.

Most couples have a rough sense — they know whether they're carrying a lot of hurt or a smaller number of specific things. The free consultation is designed to help you work this out clearly before you book anything paid.

No. Most couples who come to coaching aren't in crisis — they're stuck in patterns that have gone on for years and want to fix them. The process works best when both partners genuinely want to change something.

The intensive and single session formats need both partners to be present and willing — even reluctantly willing. One partner pushing the other rarely leads to real change.

If your partner is hesitant, a single session can be a lighter starting point. The free consultation is also a good first step — sometimes hearing about the process answers the questions causing hesitation. And if only one of you is ready, individual coaching is the better starting point — we can come back to couples work later, when both of you are in.

This process isn't suited to situations involving domestic violence or coercive control, active addiction that isn't being addressed, or serious mental health crises where clinical support is the better first step. Relationship coaching is not therapy and doesn't treat mental health conditions.

Yes — as long as both partners are genuinely open to things being different. Resolving resentment often changes the picture significantly. It's hard to know what you really want when you're still carrying the weight of everything unresolved.

A free 15-minute conversation with me. Both partners join the call together. We look at what's happening in your relationship, get a rough sense of how much you're each carrying, and decide which format is the most helpful next step. No pressure to decide on the call. If a different kind of support would serve you better, I'll say so directly.

Yes — both partners need to join. Working out the right format needs both of you present. The consultation itself is a low-pressure starting point — just 15 minutes with no obligation to decide anything on the call.

That's completely fine. The consultation is free and booking it doesn't tie you to anything. Many couples find the call alone gives them useful clarity, even if they don't book a paid session afterwards.

A three-hour online coaching session focused on resolving resentment — the root problem in most relationship conflict. Each intensive equals three to four standard weekly sessions in one focused block, without losing momentum week after week.

It depends on how much each of you is carrying and how deeply it runs. Some couples find one intensive creates a significant shift and they're ready to move forward. Others need two, three, or more. This isn't something I can tell you in advance — and anyone who promises a fixed number before assessing your situation is guessing. The free consultation gives us a realistic picture before you book anything.

Usually a few days to a week apart — close enough to keep momentum. The time between sessions is active: you leave each intensive with practical tools to apply. Each intensive picks up exactly where you are.

Yes — and many couples do. A common pattern is starting with one or two intensives to clear the heaviest resentment fast, then moving to single sessions to build communication tools and go deeper at a steadier pace. Some couples come back for another intensive later when new things surface. There's no fixed sequence — we work it out together based on how you're progressing.

Many couples feel a real shift and are ready to move forward on their own. If you want to continue — on communication tools, rebuilding connection, or anything that came up — single sessions are available at €90 per 45 minutes. Pay per session, no fixed package required.

Two different things, designed for different needs.

Therapy is typically past-focused — it explores how earlier experiences or patterns developed. It's done by licensed mental health professionals and is the right choice when mental health conditions, trauma, or psychological diagnoses are present.

Coaching is future-focused — on resolving what's blocking you now, learning practical tools, and building the relationship you want. For many couples, coaching is the better starting point when the relationship itself is the focus, not individual mental health. If deeper psychological issues are present, coaching and therapy can work alongside each other.

Possibly — if sessions felt like going in circles without resolving things, coaching will feel different. It's structured and directed, with a specific method for working through resentment one piece at a time.

Break the Pattern — €320 per intensive.
Single sessions — €90 per 45 minutes.
Free consultation — always free.

Yes — all online via video call, from anywhere in the world. Sessions are in English.

Please get in touch directly to discuss scheduling or cancellation. I'll always try to accommodate rescheduling where reasonable notice is given.

Individual coaching is for people who want to work on their relationship patterns on their own — not as part of a couple. It works well for three groups:

People repeating the same pattern. You keep attracting the same type of person, or reacting in ways you don't want to. You may know your attachment style — you just can't stop acting from it.

People healing after a breakup or divorce. You want to understand what happened and not carry it into the next relationship.

People preparing for a healthier relationship. You want the next one to be different — and you want to go into it with clarity, not just hope.

Yes — and often it's the best time. Patterns are easier to see clearly when you're not in the middle of a relationship. Most of the work happens in you — not between you and another person. Being single isn't a barrier. It's often an opportunity.

Individual coaching is not therapy. It doesn't treat mental health conditions, process clinical trauma, or work with active addiction, severe depression, PTSD, or crisis situations. If any of those are present, therapy with a licensed professional is the right first step. Coaching can complement that work, but shouldn't replace it.

45 minutes, online, 1:1. Sessions are structured — not open-ended talking, but a directed process with a clear arc. We start with what's most present — a situation, a pattern, a feeling you keep returning to. We go deeper: what's driving it, where it comes from, and how to respond differently. Every session ends with one concrete takeaway and one specific thing to try.

There's no fixed package — you book sessions as needed, at your own pace. Some people find clarity in three to five sessions. Others prefer to work fortnightly over a longer period. We agree on the rhythm together after the first session.

Yes — and this is one of the most common situations. You know your attachment style. You can describe your patterns precisely. And you're still in them.

Knowing why you do something and actually changing what you do are two completely different things. Coaching isn't about more theory — it's about application.

Two different things, designed for different needs.

Therapy is typically past-focused — on understanding and healing the roots of how you became who you are. It's done by licensed mental health professionals and is the right choice when mental health conditions, clinical trauma, or psychological diagnoses are present.

Coaching is future-focused — on where you want to go and what's getting in the way right now. It's structured, practical, and forward-moving. Many people find coaching picks up where therapy left off.

Often yes. You've done the work to understand yourself. And yet the patterns persist in daily life — in how you date, in how you react, in what you attract. That gap between understanding and behaviour is exactly where coaching works.

€70 per session · 45 minutes. Pay per session — book as needed, at your own pace, with no fixed package required. The free 15-minute consultation before your first session is always free.

Yes — all online via video call, from anywhere in the world. Sessions are in English.

Book a free 15-minute consultation. We talk about what's bringing you here and decide together whether individual coaching is the right fit and what the first session should focus on. No pressure to decide on the call — just a conversation.