Work With Me · For Couples
Online relationship coaching for couples.
Relationship coaching for couples is structured, future-focused work that helps you resolve the resentments behind your repeating conflicts, and then build the skills to stay connected. I work online, in English or Polish, with couples around the world, including international and expat couples.
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The Basics
What is relationship coaching for couples?
A relationship coach works with both partners to change what is happening between you now. The focus is not on diagnosing anyone or revisiting your whole history. It is on the specific hurts and patterns that keep the same arguments, or the same silence, coming back.
My work starts with resentment: the old hurts that were never properly repaired. They build up around communication, emotional closeness, trust, how you handle conflict, feeling unheard, the mental load at home, or the pressure of building a life far from family. When resentment piles up, love doesn't disappear. It gets buried. That is why communication tips rarely work on their own, and why we clear resentment first.
Why Intensives
Why 3 focused hours beat months of weekly sessions.
3–4 weekly sessions
1 month of work
between sessions
Momentum holds
In weekly therapy, every session starts by catching up on the week — and the tension that rebuilt in between. In an intensive, breakthroughs build on each other instead of resetting.
Depth in one arc
Resentment work needs time to open, work through, and repair — properly, in one sitting. A 50-minute slot often ends exactly where it gets difficult. Three hours don't.
You feel it the same day
Most couples leave the first intensive feeling something they haven't felt in months: that the work is actually moving forward. That shift is what keeps you both going.
Easier to make happen
One focused block is easier to schedule than months of weekly appointments — especially with work, kids, or partners living across different time zones.
The Process
How relationship coaching works: three phases.
Every couple goes through the same three phases, from resentment to real closeness. For the first phase, I recommend a 3-hour intensive, because resentment is easiest to resolve in one uninterrupted stretch. You can also begin with single sessions and move at a steadier pace.
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Resolving resentments
Recommended: 3-hour intensivesUnresolved resentments are the source of most repeating conflicts. We name the ones you are each carrying and work through them one at a time, until each one is actually repaired, not just discussed. Some couples need one intensive, others two, three or more. It depends on how much you are each carrying.
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Improving communication
45-minute sessionsOnce the resentments are worked through, the focus moves to how you talk to each other, especially in difficult moments. You learn practical tools to stay calm, say what you actually mean, hear each other better, and handle conflict before it turns into a new resentment.
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Nurturing the love
45-minute sessionsWith less tension and clearer communication, real closeness becomes possible again. This phase focuses on how you want to feel in your relationship, and how to actively build that together instead of only managing conflict.
Inside a 3-hour intensive
You each fill in a short intake form, so we don't spend the session on background.
I speak with each of you individually for about 15 minutes about your form. Then, together, we name the resentments you are each carrying.
Time to breathe before the deeper work.
We work through the resentments one at a time, around 45 minutes each, until each one is repaired.
The Formats
Two formats. One recommended start.
Break the Pattern
3-hour intensive · Online
€320 per intensive
One concentrated session focused on resolving your resentments — the equivalent of 3 to 4 weekly appointments in a single day. Book one intensive and decide from there. How many you need depends on how much you're each carrying, not on a fixed package.
Single Sessions
45 minutes · Online
€90 per session
For couples continuing after their intensives, or couples who prefer to start at a steadier pace. The same method, spread across weekly 45-minute sessions.
You book one session at a time and pay per session. No packages, no contracts. We work out what you actually need together — on the free call, before you spend anything.
Is This Right for You?
Who relationship coaching is for.
A good fit if
- You keep having the same argument, or you've stopped arguing and started drifting apart.
- One of you pushes to talk while the other shuts down or withdraws.
- You're an expat or cross-cultural couple, navigating different languages, different families and different ideas of how conflict should sound, far from your usual support.
- You both want something to change, even if one of you is only reluctantly willing.
Not the right fit if
There is domestic violence or coercive control, active addiction that isn't being addressed, or a mental health crisis where clinical support is the better first step.
Coaching or Therapy?
Relationship coaching vs couples therapy.
Couples therapy
Provided by licensed mental health professionals. It often explores how earlier experiences shaped your patterns, and it is the right choice when trauma, mental health conditions or diagnoses are part of the picture.
Relationship coaching
Future-focused. It follows a structured method, works on what is blocking you now, and gives you practical tools. It doesn't treat mental health conditions.
For many couples, coaching is the right starting point when the relationship itself is the focus. The two can also work alongside each other.
Your Coach
Who you'll be working with.
I'm Magdalena Paccagnan, a relationship coach based in Hamburg, working online with couples worldwide in English and Polish. I trained with Dr. Wyatt Fisher and am certified through his Fisher Relationship Coaching Academy (FRCA), an ICF-accredited programme. Every couple I work with goes through the same structured method: resentments first, then communication, then closeness.
I'm Polish, my husband is Italian, and we live in Germany, so I know first-hand what it takes to make a relationship work across languages and cultures.
Quick Answers
Relationship coaching: common questions.
What does a relationship coach do?
A relationship coach works with both partners to resolve what is keeping them stuck, in my case unresolved resentment, and to build the skills to handle conflict and stay connected going forward.
How much does relationship coaching cost?
A 3-hour intensive is €320. Single 45-minute sessions are €90. The first 15-minute consultation is always free, and you pay per session with no package.
Can we start with single sessions instead of an intensive?
Yes. I recommend starting with an intensive, because resentment is easiest to resolve in one uninterrupted stretch. If you prefer a steadier pace, you can begin with 45-minute sessions and follow the same method.
How many sessions will we need?
With weekly single sessions, most couples work through the full process in 3 to 6 months. Each 3-hour intensive condenses 3 to 4 of those sessions into one day. How many you need depends on how much each of you is carrying, and we get a realistic picture on the free call.
Is relationship coaching worth it?
It is worth it when both partners are willing to engage, even reluctantly. If one partner is being pushed into it, change is unlikely, and I'll tell you that honestly on the free call.
Start Here
Every couple starts with the same step.
A free 15-minute call. I look at what's happening between you, and we decide together where to start. For most couples, that's a 3-hour intensive. Both partners join.
I work with a small number of couples each month.
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